Situationships 101: Are You in One? Should You Stay?

🧭 Signs You’re in a Situationship

Ask yourself:

• Have we been seeing each other for weeks/months without clarity?

• Have we avoided discussing what this is?

• Do I feel confused, anxious, or emotionally ungrounded in this connection?

• Are we acting like a couple, but they resist labels or commitment?

If you answered yes to more than one of these, odds are you’re deep in Situationshipville.

🧠 Why Situationships Happen

There are lots of reasons people fall into them:

• Fear of commitment

• Convenience (e.g., someone to text, hang with, hook up with)

• Unclear expectations from one or both people

• Avoiding loneliness without wanting a full relationship

Sometimes they’re mutual, and sometimes they’re just... a placeholder.

🔍 Should You Stay in a Situationship?

Here’s how to evaluate whether your situationship is healthy—or holding you back:

✅ Stay if…

• You both genuinely want something casual—and it feels fun, not confusing

• You feel emotionally safe, respected, and free to live your life

• You’re not trying to “change” the other person or waiting for them to commit

• You have aligned expectations, even without the label

🚩 Leave if…

• You want more—but they clearly don’t

• You feel anxious, confused, or emotionally drained

• You’re hoping it will “turn into something real” without clear signs

• You’re stuck in a cycle of mixed signals and emotional whiplash

🧠 Reminder: Staying in a situationship hoping they’ll commit often ends in heartbreak. People who want to be with you will make it clear.

💬 How to Get Clarity

If you're unsure where you stand, ask. Yes, it’s uncomfortable—but clarity is kindness (to both of you).

Try:

“I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you, and I’m starting to want more clarity about what this is. Are we on the same page?”

If they dodge, delay, or dismiss you? That’s your answer.

❤️ Final Thoughts

Situationships aren’t automatically bad. But they are risky if you're craving real connection while someone else is comfortable keeping things blurry.

You deserve someone who knows what they want—and chooses you without hesitation.

🎯 Bottom line: If you feel like you're constantly guessing how they feel, you already know how they feel.